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The Wizard of Oz

Children's Corner Posted on Mon, April 22, 2019 14:11:59

I remember as a child watching The Wizard of Oz and feeling really sorry for Dorothy (Judy Garland) Gale – does anybody remember her surname!!? She was living on this not very nice farm in Kansas, didn’t have any friends apart from her dog Toto, she didn’t have a mum and dad but instead had gone to live with a much older looking Auntie and Uncle and there was no one to play with or talk to apart from some farm hands.

It wasn’t until I was much older and a therapist that I realised the whole film was a metaphor for what was actually going on in Dorothy’s life at the time. She had obviously undergone some trauma or tragedy that had resulted in her having to be uprooted away from everything that she knew and loved. Is it any wonder that when she went to sleep in a strange bed that her mind went into overdrive and the house that she now lived in was caught up in a tornado as her world was torn apart. Eventually she landed in a different land full of scary, wonderful, different, amazing things.

The first people she met were the Munchkin Men and Glinda the Good Witch of the South who come to welcome her for having killed, albeit accidentally, the Wicked Witch of the East. So straight away good is overcoming evil. Then she has to go on a quest to get back home. On the way she has to overcome many obstacles and meets up with the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion at various stages of the journey. Together they help each other find something that they all need. The Scarecrow wanted a brain, the Tin Man a heart and the Lion courage. I understand this to mean that Dorothy herself was feeling stupid, unloved and scared, so in her subconscious she went in search of finding the qualities that she needed to survive in her new life.

Ultimately when they meet the Wizard of Oz he’s not the powerful person that they thought he would be, so Dorothy had to sort it out herself. She was taking responsibility for her life.

They did eventually all get what they wanted and when Dorothy went back to Glinda the Good Witch of the South asking her to help her get back home, we all know what she said after giving her the magical red slippers “click your heels together three times and wish”. After doing this Dorothy starts chanting “there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home”.

Dorothy awakens back in her bedroom in Kansas with Toto. With her Auntie and Uncle and the three farm hands who look remarkably like the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion all looking on with love and concern for her.

Dorothy went on an adventure in her mind and overcame all of her fears. As Glinda said “you’ve always had the power Dorothy, you just had to learn it for yourself”!

We’ve all been on similar adventures in our lives and the ending is always down to us.

You too have the power – you can be, do and go wherever your imagination takes you – all it needs is for you to believe in yourself, trust in yourself and have faith in yourself. smiley


Some lovely quotes to think about:

Dorothy asks Scarecrow how he can talk if he had no brain, to which he replies: “I don’t know, but some people without brains do an awful lot of talking, don’t they?”

The cowardly lion: What makes a King out of a slave? Courage!

Dorothy Gale: Oh, you’re the best friends anybody ever had. And it’s funny, but I feel as if I’d know you all the time, but I couldn’t have, could I?
The Scarecrow: I don’t see how. You weren’t around when I was stuffed and sewn together, were you?
The Tin Man: And I was standing over there, rusting for the longest time.
Dorothy Gale: Still I wish I could remember, but I guess it doesn’t manner anyway. We know each other now don’t we?

Dorothy is now complete – as are you. Never doubt it! smiley



How to Break Up with Anxiety

Anxiety Posted on Wed, April 10, 2019 10:29:31

How To Break Up With Anxiety … For Good

18% of adults (almost one in five) suffers from anxiety. We just don’t talk about it.

We don’t talk about it and, therefore, we don’t understand what causes it, or how to fix it. But no one is just doomed to a life of anxiety. And, new evidence suggests that although anxiety is often passed on from our parents, it isn’t due to genetics.

Anxiety is something we learn. That means we can unlearn it.

We have the power to change ourselves and the way we experience life.

It can seem like an overwhelming task, but taken day by day, it doesn’t have to be. Here are five steps to help you regain control of your life and let go of anxiety for good.

1. Don’t indulge negative thoughts.

You can’t keep negative thoughts from coming up, but you can choose not to engage with them. When you notice anxious thought patterns, it’s a signal to do something that energizes or relaxes you. Call a friend, listen to a song that makes you feel good, or get some exercise.

2. Remember that a fear is not a fact.

We all have fears. “I’m not good enough.”
“Something bad could happen.” “I won’t be able to cope.” But anxiety
distorts your thought process. Just being aware of your own fallibility can
loosen the grip of a thought spiral. When you notice negative thoughts taking hold, ask yourself, “Is that really true?” More often than not, it isn’t.

3. Write it out.

I write every day, and recommend all my clients do the same. Putting
something on paper provides perspective. Giving form to your fears makes
them seem more manageable somehow. Every morning, or just when you need to, start writing.

Note any worries, anxious feelings, frustrations or musings. Next, make a list of all the things you’re grateful for. (It’s a foolproof mood booster.) Next, express how you would like to be thinking, feeling, and behaving as though you already are. For example, “I am feeling calm and in control.” This encourages your mind to accept your desired reality as an actual reality.

4. Rest and digest.

This breathing exercise short circuits anxiety. By activating the
parasympathetic nervous system, we can turn off the “fight or flight” mechanism and revert to “rest and digest” mode.

Anxiety sometimes causes us to hold our breath, and that can exacerbate the feeling of stress. This technique tells your body it’s
safe to relax.

Breathe in for a quick count of 7, then out for 11. When you breathe in, let your belly expand like a balloon. As you breathe out, let your belly flatten. You can do this for as long as you like.

5. Be your own best friend.

Note how you talk to yourself and you will be shocked by how much more critical you are towards yourself than you ever would be towards others. How do you speak to yourself over the course of a day? Are you
supportive and helpful, or critical and mean?

To adjust your self-talk, start by writing down all your repetitive negative thoughts. Then respond to those thoughts in a rational, supportive way — the way you would respond to a friend.

For example, if your negative thought is, “I’m not good enough,” a supportive, honest response would be, “There are some things I’m less good at, but I’m really good at a lot of things. And, if I keep trying, I will get better.”

We can’t change what we don’t understand and to understand something we have to follow the Golden Thread!



The Power of Your Vibration

Law of Attraction Posted on Sun, March 25, 2018 12:03:34

I was listening to a random video on YouTube this morning about hypnotherapy and the Law of Attraction and how it’s not our thoughts that attract things to us … it’s actually our vibration / frequency / feelings that make things happen. With every thought that we have consciously; there is an unconscious or sub conscious thought running simultaneously along side it. So if our sub conscious is filled with limiting beliefs (fears) then no matter what our thoughts are, if they are not one in the same then we will always receive the dominant thought and that is always the subconscious one – that is the one with the most power because it holds our deepest, darkest secrets.

When I walked my dog this morning we went to the park and as usual on a Sunday there was a local football team playing. As we got closer to where they were playing I thought to myself “please don’t let that ball come off the pitch and hit my dog on the head”! Years ago this had happened to one of my other, now passed, beloved pets and I’ve convinced myself that this incident was partly to do with her demise. Although the rational (weaker vibrational) part of me tells me that I’m talking rubbish! Anyway we get three quarters of the way past the football game and the ball comes off the pitch and stops literally 1″ away from my dogs head and falls at her paws. Although this validated that the power does indeed lie in our vibration (feelings) … how then do we emit a vibration as strong as fear, but for good and not bad. Then it dawned on me … the ball had lost momentum, so there was no power behind it. I smiled as I realised that we DO attract on the strength of our vibration (feelings) and on this occasion my feeling had been one of “fear” topped only by my “love” for my dog and wanting her to be safe. The fear attracted the ball, the love stopped it from doing any harm.

There are only two truly powerful emotions that we have … on one end of the stick is FEAR and on the other end of the stick is LOVE … all other emotions come somewhere in between those two. So, in order to attract good things to you, you have to send out the vibration of love and well being to everyone and everything, including yourself … no matter what. How you do this is entirely up to you – after all you know yourself far better than I do. Check into your vibration on a regular basis if your feeling frustrated or angry or sad or anything else that is on its way to the scale of fear then change it until it starts sliding in the opposite direction towards love. You have the power … you always have had. Your life is a reflection of how you’re feeling on the inside. If you don’t like your life then change your vibration!

Bright blessings x



Mirroring Nature

Counselling Posted on Sun, March 18, 2018 13:37:58

It’s a Sunday morning in March – the snow is falling outside and I’ve decided to be kind to myself. I’m not listening to all of those years of programming telling me that I “should” be doing something else. I’m going to be lazy because I can!

So, I made myself a heavenly bacon butty, followed by a cup of coffee and listened to the late, great Nat King Cole feeling all warm and cosy. I started to feel quite nostalgic. Nat King Cole isn’t my era, but I’m the youngest of 4 sisters so I had quite a range of music imposed upon me.

That caused me to look back at my life and wonder how I got to where I am now and how I feel about it. Only in our minds can we travel at warp speed from the past, to the future, back to the present!

I realised that I was robbing myself of the moment that I had been luxuriating in only minutes earlier. Those old programmes obviously run really deep.

I focused on the beat in the music and started breathing in time to it … I notice that the word beat appears in breathing … synchronicity … I wonder? Then my thoughts turned to the ebb and flow of the ocean replicating the breath entering and leaving my lungs. I thought about how everything in this Universe of ours is a reflection of our way of being.

Days earlier I’d stood looking at a wonderful old oak tree, stripped bare of its leaves and considered how it resembled our human body, with the branches and twigs being our skeleton and veins. As I listened to Nat he reminded me that our lives too were depicted in terms of the Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter phases.

Recently whilst walking my dog in the park I saw that the winter storms had brought down a branch of a lovely old tree. I immediately felt sad. Several days later I was talking to the tree surgeon who was tidying up the area and he confirmed that the branch had been diseased. So it was almost an amputation by nature and I prayed that the tree that remained would continue to grow healthy and strong for many more years to come.

When I first started out as a counsellor I worked with a client who had a highly responsible job and had many family issues going on along side that. When my clients talk I tend to pictoralise what they say and I then reflect that picture back to them. When she talked I pictured a large tree that was trying to stand strong and upright instead of bending with the wind. She was trying to be perfect and do right by everyone, instead of simply doing the best that she could. By using that picture of herself she was ultimately able to begin to sense when she was standing tall and when she should be kind to herself and bend with the wind (situation) go with it instead of fight against it.

These are merely my ramblings … I follow the breadcrumbs that my mind lays down and I end up I know not where lol but always for a reason. Today, it’s about us being kind to ourselves, to bending with the wind, to go with the flow of life and not wear ourselves out fighting against it by trying to control everything. We should mimic nature because we are part of it and ultimately have faith that everything will come to us when the time is right. It’s about appreciating the seasons; in winter we rest and replenish, ready for the growth spurts in spring, the enjoyment of the long sunny days in summer and the peaceful reflective time in autumn.

Be kind to yourself always … do what feels right for you.



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