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How to Break Up with Anxiety

Anxiety Posted on Wed, April 10, 2019 10:29:31

How To Break Up With Anxiety … For Good

18% of adults (almost one in five) suffers from anxiety. We just don’t talk about it.

We don’t talk about it and, therefore, we don’t understand what causes it, or how to fix it. But no one is just doomed to a life of anxiety. And, new evidence suggests that although anxiety is often passed on from our parents, it isn’t due to genetics.

Anxiety is something we learn. That means we can unlearn it.

We have the power to change ourselves and the way we experience life.

It can seem like an overwhelming task, but taken day by day, it doesn’t have to be. Here are five steps to help you regain control of your life and let go of anxiety for good.

1. Don’t indulge negative thoughts.

You can’t keep negative thoughts from coming up, but you can choose not to engage with them. When you notice anxious thought patterns, it’s a signal to do something that energizes or relaxes you. Call a friend, listen to a song that makes you feel good, or get some exercise.

2. Remember that a fear is not a fact.

We all have fears. “I’m not good enough.”
“Something bad could happen.” “I won’t be able to cope.” But anxiety
distorts your thought process. Just being aware of your own fallibility can
loosen the grip of a thought spiral. When you notice negative thoughts taking hold, ask yourself, “Is that really true?” More often than not, it isn’t.

3. Write it out.

I write every day, and recommend all my clients do the same. Putting
something on paper provides perspective. Giving form to your fears makes
them seem more manageable somehow. Every morning, or just when you need to, start writing.

Note any worries, anxious feelings, frustrations or musings. Next, make a list of all the things you’re grateful for. (It’s a foolproof mood booster.) Next, express how you would like to be thinking, feeling, and behaving as though you already are. For example, “I am feeling calm and in control.” This encourages your mind to accept your desired reality as an actual reality.

4. Rest and digest.

This breathing exercise short circuits anxiety. By activating the
parasympathetic nervous system, we can turn off the “fight or flight” mechanism and revert to “rest and digest” mode.

Anxiety sometimes causes us to hold our breath, and that can exacerbate the feeling of stress. This technique tells your body it’s
safe to relax.

Breathe in for a quick count of 7, then out for 11. When you breathe in, let your belly expand like a balloon. As you breathe out, let your belly flatten. You can do this for as long as you like.

5. Be your own best friend.

Note how you talk to yourself and you will be shocked by how much more critical you are towards yourself than you ever would be towards others. How do you speak to yourself over the course of a day? Are you
supportive and helpful, or critical and mean?

To adjust your self-talk, start by writing down all your repetitive negative thoughts. Then respond to those thoughts in a rational, supportive way — the way you would respond to a friend.

For example, if your negative thought is, “I’m not good enough,” a supportive, honest response would be, “There are some things I’m less good at, but I’m really good at a lot of things. And, if I keep trying, I will get better.”

We can’t change what we don’t understand and to understand something we have to follow the Golden Thread!



Live in the Here and Now

Anxiety Posted on Sun, October 01, 2017 10:18:46

This is a really simple technique that can help if you’re feeling stressed or anxious.

Always remember that when you’re feeling a negative emotion such as anger, resentment, guilt etc then what you are doing is bringing thoughts from the PAST into the PRESENT. Likewise, if you’re having feelings of stress, anxiety, worry etc then you are bringing thoughts from the FUTURE into the PRESENT.

LET GO of the PAST because it no longer serves you and TRUST that the future is always working out for you. LIVE IN THE NOW – the PRESENT. Feel how EASY it is to just “BE”!

Try it next time your feeling angry – I bet you’ve connected emotionally to a memory from the past! If you begin to feel worried then you’ve gone into “what if” mode and are getting stressed over something that hasn’t happened yet and may not ever!

Be kind to yourself smiley